August 15, 2011
7. Newblog2011: 08/15/11 What's Really Going On
If there are women or girls who think that the incessant referencing of vaginas and vaginal functions made by the big harassers is liberating or that it will lead to female freedom and empowerment, and/or who think that I’ve been unnecessarily restrictive or prissy, I hope that those women and girls can understand that what’s happening ISN’T empowering or liberating to them and that I’m not remotely ashamed of being female.
I don’t need anyone talking about vaginas all the time in order to feel secure about being female. The big harassers aren’t complimenting women; they are defining women by gender. What the big harassers and those who imitate and support them are doing is saying “Women are nothing more than vaginas. Sometimes the vaginas are good and sometimes they’re bad, but even women with good vaginas are nothing more than vaginas.” It is crippling, not empowering.
Say that you are a woman or a girl who readily engages in conversations that are full of vaginal references. Say that, eventually, you want to talk about something else or expect the other person to take you seriously.
Especially if the other person is a woman with more power than you, or is a man, who, by the definition that the big harassers are attempting to give to gender, automatically has more power than you do just because he’s a man, you’ll only be able to talk or hear about something other than vaginas if the other person allows it. If the other person who has more power than you have starts to say or do things that you don’t like, or wants you to say or do things that you don’t like, the goal of the big harassers is to make the entire world a place in which there won’t be anything that you can do about it, especially if the person is someone like a boss, a parent, a teacher, a male spouse…the list of abusers that the big harassers want to create in the world according to gender and age of the victims goes on and on.
Copyright L. Kochman August 15, 2011 @ 6:05 p.m.
7. Newblog2011: 08/15/11 What's Really Going On
If there are women or girls who think that the incessant referencing of vaginas and vaginal functions made by the big harassers is liberating or that it will lead to female freedom and empowerment, and/or who think that I’ve been unnecessarily restrictive or prissy, I hope that those women and girls can understand that what’s happening ISN’T empowering or liberating to them and that I’m not remotely ashamed of being female.
I don’t need anyone talking about vaginas all the time in order to feel secure about being female. The big harassers aren’t complimenting women; they are defining women by gender. What the big harassers and those who imitate and support them are doing is saying “Women are nothing more than vaginas. Sometimes the vaginas are good and sometimes they’re bad, but even women with good vaginas are nothing more than vaginas.” It is crippling, not empowering.
Say that you are a woman or a girl who readily engages in conversations that are full of vaginal references. Say that, eventually, you want to talk about something else or expect the other person to take you seriously.
Especially if the other person is a woman with more power than you, or is a man, who, by the definition that the big harassers are attempting to give to gender, automatically has more power than you do just because he’s a man, you’ll only be able to talk or hear about something other than vaginas if the other person allows it. If the other person who has more power than you have starts to say or do things that you don’t like, or wants you to say or do things that you don’t like, the goal of the big harassers is to make the entire world a place in which there won’t be anything that you can do about it, especially if the person is someone like a boss, a parent, a teacher, a male spouse…the list of abusers that the big harassers want to create in the world according to gender and age of the victims goes on and on.
Copyright L. Kochman August 15, 2011 @ 6:05 p.m.